Cheap sexy cooking: Convince your date you’re fancy

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A guide to sexy cooking for the financially humble

So here’s your problem. You’re a young creative in London. That means that you probably don’t have any money.

You probably have expensive taste though, you little brat. You’re a bit lonely sometimes. That’s OK. The world is tough sometimes. You just have something in your eye. That’s alright.

So how on earth do you go about getting to do ‘the no-pants-dance’ with one of the other young poor people in London?

If you’re smart, you will cook for them. At your house. That way you can get them in your house… know what I mean?

You’ve got to play your cards right here. You mustn’t go over the top, because trying too hard isn’t sexy. Don’t pretend that you’re Heston Blumenthal. Don’t serve up some pretentious smear on a plate covered in lemon foam. Stay away from all the foams.

For you average Joe’s and Jane’s out there, if you try to cook something too advanced in the early stages of a relationship, it could scare your guest away. It’s like showing up for a date with a massive erection in your trousers and a chainsaw in your hand.

You want to cook something easy and chic – and I have just the thing for you: mussels in white wine. Cheap, easy and classy. Get the mussels from the fish counter of the supermarket, or even a fishmonger if you’re feeling double fancy.

Fancy mussels in white wine:

You will need:

1 kg of mussels
A big onion
Crushed garlic
Some double cream
Some white wine
Nice bread

I won’t give you exact measurements because you won’t look cool and casual if you keep looking at a recipe all the time. It’s hard to mess up mussels unless you are really, really horrible in the kitchen. In which case you should probably stick to good old restaurant dates.

Back to the mussels: You will cook these in some white wine that you should probably get from Lidl. Lidl has nice wine starting from about £4. Get two bottles, just in case. We all know wine is great for engineering taking-off-pants scenarios.

You should also stock up on a few other things because they do fancy food now. Get some nice cheeses, maybe a blue cheese, a couple of different varieties. Get a baguette and some fruit. Ah, look at you, walking around Lidl with all that nice food in your little basket and a song in your heart. Can you see it too? If you want to be really deceptive, you can bring a bag from a farmers market and put your groceries in there just in case you run into your dinner guest on the way home.

  • First, you clean the mussels before your guest arrives. Put them in a bowl, rinse in cold water and throw away the ones with broken shells. Just like tuna is sometimes called ‘chicken of the sea’, mussels are sometimes called ‘hipsters of the sea’. You have to remove the beards of the mussels, because just like human beards, they are not very nice to chew on. Take your little knife and rip all the beards out.
  • If a mussel is open, bang it lightly against the kitchen sink. If it doesn’t close up in fear throw it away. A nasty mussel corpse has been decomposing in there for who knows how long, and should not be eaten. It could cause you and your guest severe intestinal distress.
  • Chop your onion. Chop it up beforehand, because if you start chopping them when your guest is there you might cry a lot if the onion is strong and it might make your guest uncomfortable. Even if you say ‘it’s just the onions’, they might feel weirded out seeing your tears so early on in the relationship. Save the tears for later.

When your guest arrives, be nice to them. Make them feel at ease and take their coat if they have one. Give them a glass of cold white wine. It’s important you serve the wine cold so you don’t reveal your true peasant status. Smile. Try not to be creepy. Listen to what they say. If they say something sad, stop smiling. It might upset them. Laugh at their jokes but not too hard. You can practice this in front of a mirror in advance.

Then it’s time to start cooking.

  • Fry the onion in some butter until it’s nice, soft and see-through. Add the garlic, fry until it smells sexy.
  • Tip the mussels in there, and pour over some white wine. Not too much, not too little. Your guest is thinking you’re a total connoisseur. You’re looking very impressive. Said guest should be there at the moment you pour in the wine so they can get impressed by it. Pouring wine straight from the bottle into a pot is like the cooking equivalent of a rapper ‘pouring one out‘ for a homie, only you don’t need a dead friend to do it. And trust me, even without the dead friend you will still look like a total baller.
  • Cook for a few minutes with a lid on. Shake the pan around every now and again, this makes you look sassy and in control. Slosh in some cream. The beautiful mussels have now gone to a better place were there is no more pain, and they will smell amazing. You might need a little salt but maybe not, be careful. Chop the parsley and sprinkle on top, moving your hands gracefully like a dancer. Serve with bread. Have a good time. Don’t eat the mussels that haven’t opened during the cooking. They might be evil.

Then eat some of that nice cheese with crackers and fruit. If your guest asks you where you got your Lidl cheese from you will say “from the market” with sparkle in your eyes. Of course, you’ve lit candles to make your eyes more sparkly. If they ask which market, you refill their wineglass and say ‘kiss me you fool’ or ‘it’s getting late’ depending on how you feel it’s going.


Make sure your guest is not vegetarian, and/or lactose intolerant and/or allergic to seafood. In that case everything I mentioned above would be an absolute disaster.

If they are fussy eaters and just don’t like this stuff, think about dumping them, and then dump them.

Happy eating.

Illustrations by Peter Jeppson

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